Is my child having a gender issue? Advice to a worried family

Dear Evolved Moms: I was not sure who could help me. I am so freaked out. I am a straight mom (with a husband and three daughters - and one son - hope I can post here). My son, who is 10, keeps telling me he does not want to have a penis. He pee's sitting down and seems extremely quiet. My husband is devastated and does not want me to talk about it. What does this all mean? Is he gay? Does he want to be a girl? What should I do? -Patricia

Dear Patricia,

Of course you can post here! I am so glad you found us! All are welcome!

Okay - so here is what I think.

Many things might be happening here

or nothing at all

1) In a house of 3 sisters and a mom

even with a dad

your son might just want to be like you and your daughters

a compliment

I am sure you are all his heroes

2) Lets face it

most men really do not speak much

about sexuality

their anatomy

or share their feelings about these things - even with their sons

maybe he needs some hearts to hearts with dad about loving himself

and what guys are all about

3) Around this age

the penis begins to act up

saluting when you least want it

odd dreams and feelings

Clearly I am no expert

but I am sure it is quite embarrassing

and hard to control

Maybe a big embarrassing moment took place?

Boys in the locker room

or a first encounter

an erection at the chalk board?

4) Maybe he is have some gender questioning

but clearly you are a loving mom

if he is - talk to him

make sure dad listens and supports too

Find some great books, a therapist - for you guys to sort out your thoughts

has this been a long term issue or just this week?

I'd love to hear more

5) best news - he is telling you how he feels

so clearly you are in

and he trusts you

so talk to him

gay straight

boy girl

rich poor

lawyer or juggler

you will love him

your job is to support him

and assist him in his life

I know you will be amazing

because you took the time to listen to him

and reach out

please stay in touch

Evolved Mom - Stacey