Saturday, February 11, 2006

Evolved Moms Blog Begins!

So our Blog begins - on the first full day of the Olympics, how very lesbian, I think! Our aim is to create a space for lesbian and gay fellow parents, fellow want-to-be parents, fellow like-minded folks, to be, to comment, to share, to seek advice when lost, and definitely to laugh.

I am sitting on the couch with Zion - my oldest - five "and-three-quarters" he lets me know. Time flies. We are watching the women's USA Ice Hockey team take the ice. Brutal chick strength. Lesbian parenting at its best. Watching this power team crash and speed around, it amazes me that there are no professional women baseball players. How can that be? How long have women even been "allowed" to play ice hockey in the Olympics? When will the first pair of ice-dancing men take the ice?

We just scored again! Zion is screaming "Go USA!" Do you think many heterosexual dads watch women's ice hockey with their sons? I dunno.

This week the highest court in New Jersey is deciding if our good friends - and several other gay and lesbian couples - have the "right to marry". I sit here in Massachusetts, married and watching ice hockey as our friends Marcye and Karen wait - nail-biting, hearts pounding, holding their two children - exactly the same age as mine - to see if they can have the same rights as I do as a lesbian in Massachusetts - as all other heterosexuals in the entire country do. And some panel of judges just gets to decide if our love is equal and valid.

How do I explain this to Z? How do I give him faith in a world when I flinch every time the news tickers by: Iraq, kidnapped, bomb, another troop lost, levees unmended. Separate but unequal still reigns in our world.

I urge you not to fall silent.

USA women won six to nothing! Women playing ice hockey at the Olympics...

Then again...look how far we have come. All in time... Posted by Picasa


At February 14, 2006 7:23 AM , Blogger Carolyn said...

Wow, what a nice thing to wake up to this morning. We sit here in Alabama, of all places, with little faith that we will have the right to marry any time soon, but this is our home. We love the mild weather, we love our friends and family, we love our jobs and our home. I hate that my name is not on our sons birth certificate and that I can't stay home with him when he is sick and expect to get paid. I have an 18 year old daughter who is going to change the world one day. She is mad that her Mom and Step Mom don't have the same family rights as her Dad and his Fiance will one day have. She is mad that people at school say hurtful things to her about her Moms and about her FAMILY. She is mad and she is ready to fight. I am proud of her and of the beautiful, intelligent, strong willed woman that she has become, like I said, she is ready to fight. I've rambled enough and must go get our 6 year old ready for the school bus, then I must go to work while my NON-LEGAL wife stays home, once again, with our sick little boy. I want to stay home and hold him today, I want to give him juice and tell him it's all going to be ok. I want that, but I know it won't happen, not this week, not in this state. So I'm off to work and I'll phone home a zillion times to check on my FAMILY. Have a great day and thanks for this place to come and vent. PEACE!!

At February 14, 2006 7:33 AM , Blogger Carolyn said...

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At February 14, 2006 8:12 AM , Blogger Chloe said...

I would love to put your blog on my blog list on my website. Glad you are starting your own blog. It is a very freeing experience. Can't wait to read more!

At February 14, 2006 10:58 AM , Blogger Wolfie said...

We celebrated my son's 14th birthday on the same day as Lincoln's birthday. It struck me as fanatastic because the party was at a bowling alley that was hosting a "women's bowling tournament" at the time. He was surrounded by his friends and two generations of lesbian moms and the families they have created. At the end of the day my son and I went to the beach to participate in one of our favorite pasttimes..."Girl Watching". How many boys can say they share that activity with mom? Which brings me to another mom and I used to share this pasttime as well. lol. But...the icing on the cake is...we are sitting here now and my son has just asked me if I would be his biography subject. I of course said sure. I then asked Why me? He said "Because you are my hero". that I have wiped that tear away...I firmly believe that my son and children like him WILL change the world! They do not discriminate and they get angry because they see the REAL truth of what GLBT people are like. They are not scared or marred by some myth that they were told or warned about.

At February 14, 2006 11:34 AM , Blogger bobsled2002 said...

I'm from Canada so we can get married here. The new government though has commented that they may try and take that right away....I can just see the court challenges. Anyway, your blog is great. I will be reading.

At February 14, 2006 12:17 PM , Blogger Ingramtribe said...

Here in Texas we are now dealing with the constitutional amendment that passed last year on same sex marriages. We could hardley believe the margin in which it passed. Do what ever you can to not let this happen in your state. Even the littlest thing is better than nothing.
To Carolyn, I too am the non legal parent to our son Justice, but I recently (2/7/06) left the courthouse with shared conservatorship. This gives me every right as a parent, but without the "legal" title of mother. It cost about 1500.00 but worth every penny. There are ways around everything, even though we shouldn't have to.

At February 14, 2006 9:40 PM , Blogger Lo said...

I work in New Jersey.
Getting that email from you today, Valentine's Day, well, to say it made my day does not really explain.
Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

At February 14, 2006 9:41 PM , Blogger Lo said...

May I link your blog to my own?

At February 15, 2006 12:44 AM , Blogger Evolved Mom - Stacey said...

Thank you so much to all of you who have joined in and commented this first day - and please feel free to link to us from any and all of your blogs!

Good Luck to New Jersey tomorrow! We will be thinking of you!

At February 15, 2006 4:09 PM , Blogger SkyMama said...

This was beautiful and strong and very very moving. Congrats on the new blog and go USA women! As a hetro, white mom in a very accepted marriage, I am (obviously) much less aware of the struggle that you and Jessie and other gay and lesbian couples have untertaken in order to be considered LEGALLY a family. Thank you, as always, for the reminder. For you, for my father-in-law (who came back to MA last summer to marry his partner of 17 years), for my child to have the right to marry whoever he wants (in another 18 years)...for equal rights for us all, I fight beside you. Blessed be.


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