tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21821903.post114073618655112239..comments2023-10-17T06:50:42.053-05:00Comments on Evolved Moms - Blog: Duct Tape - Advice to a parent-to-be in New HampshireJessiehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06923270988911976249noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21821903.post-1143505090782900492006-03-27T19:18:00.000-05:002006-03-27T19:18:00.000-05:00I am now the proud mama to Asher. My beautiful wi...I am now the proud mama to Asher. My beautiful wife gave birth to him on March 6. 7 lbs 7oz, 20.5 inches. The most amazing experience we will ever have. We never thought we could love anything more than we loved each other, and now there is Asher and we love him so much that our hearts could burst, and we love each other more than we could ever have dreamt. We did decide to go through with the move to Massachusetts. What was most important to us was to protect our child and this seemes to be our best decision. So now we are married with a beautiful son, going through with our adoption. Once that is final we will move back to NH and continue the battle there....the battle for all families.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21821903.post-1140805233632440222006-02-24T13:20:00.000-05:002006-02-24T13:20:00.000-05:00Funny...as half of a hetero couple I have a simila...Funny...as half of a hetero couple I have a similar problem for opposite reasons. While part of this country can't fathom a gay couple getting married, just as many can't fathom a hetero couple NOT getting married. <BR/><BR/>We've been together for 9 years. We are finally getting married in October, but we've been hearing the question since we were together 6 months. We were in our early 20's and nowhere near being ready for it, but everyone asked all the time. "When are you getting married?" Over and over and over. I think it's a rude question to impose on a couple if you don't know their status. It made us uncomfortable. Some people were insistant that we get married soon. After all, we're together so long, why not get married.<BR/><BR/>It made us feel as though people would never take us seriously as a couple, as a family, until we got married. <BR/><BR/>For a long time we weren't sure if we were going to get married at all. We love each other, so why would we need a piece of paper from the state confirming that?<BR/><BR/>We also bought some duct tape. We moved in together. We bought an air conditioner together. Then a regrigerator. There were joint bank accounts and then a car. Look! We're a couple! Really, we are!<BR/><BR/>A conversation with a friend convinced me that if for no other reason, legality demanded it. What if one of us were in a serious accident or very ill and the other were not allowed to make decisions. What if one of us died suddenly and the other had no claim on money and property? How about when I was unemployed and his place of work did not see fit to insure me without that little piece of paper from the state?<BR/><BR/>Fortunately all we have to do is show up at city hall with some ID and a nominal fee, and all those questions are answered in a heartbeat. We are instantly linked, legally, forever, unless we make the decision to undo it. He will be my proxy, my benefactor, and my heir. And I his. In the eyes of the law, everything is sorted out. <BR/><BR/>I cannot, to the depths of my soul, imagine why anyone would want to deny that security, that piece of mind to ANY couple.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com